WHAT IS OUR SECRET

I had two events last week, both of which relate to life. On Wednesday, I went out for ice cream with my friend Diana Romanovska, who is a family law attorney. We met a few years in a networking group. She then referred me to her client whom I helped to refinance a mortgage during his divorce. Diana and I exchanged books. I gave her my latest “42 Encounters with Love”, and she gave me her book, “Divorce Like a Boss”. Diana is a very busy attorney these days, possibly due to increased tensions with couples during the Covid-19 quarantine.

On Thursday, my wife Elfa and I celebrated our fifty-seventh wedding anniversary and just as well, thirty-nine years since both of us started our mortgage company Pacific Bay Financial Corporation. That evening, we celebrated at a lovely restaurant with our daughter Alona and her significant other. Each of us had a three-course meal with desserts. Additionally, the manager brought us another complimentary dessert in honor of our celebration. When I told him how many years Elfa and I had been together (actually fifty-eight), he said that he was planning to propose soon and asked what our secret is.

So, I shared with him the lesson that my wife Elfa taught me many years ago. In any conflict, if I feel upset about anyone, I should mentally connect this person’s image with my heart. Since then, every time I’ve been doing so, I am able to let go being upset. And then the only feeling left in my heart is love. Perhaps, after you try this simple technique and share it with others, divorce attorneys will be less busy.

I am sharing with you these three images of roses, in celebration of love.

Enjoy and Share!